How to Get Over a Heartbreak

Anyone who has ever been in a romantic relationship has experienced heartbreak at least once. Not everyone gets a happily-ever-after ending. So how do you get over a heartbreak?

Accept that It Hurts

There’s no going over that fact. Heartbreak hurts and there is no guarantee when it will stop hurting, if it will ever stop at all. You will go through a roller coaster of emotions as you try to make sense of the experience. You will find yourself wishing you could change things. It’s natural to feel betrayed, hurt and disappointed.

Talk to Friends and Family

You should not go through the pain alone. One effective way to speed up your recovery is to surround yourself with people who love you and will support you. Tell them how you feel. If they love you, they won’t get tired of listening to you rant because they know it will make you feel better. Stay away from people who will not encourage you to move forward and instead tempt you to go drinking or partying until you pass out. Avoid posting on social media so you don’t make a fool out of yourself.

Don’t Blame Yourself

You will feel angry about what happened. You will wonder why it happened to you even if you did your best. Stop when you start thinking of “if onlys” and “what ifs.” Treat your experience as a way to become better the next time you’re in a relationship. Accept that not everything will work out for the best, but you still have to try. For a relationship to work, it needs two people. You are both to blame, but pointing fingers will not help.

Not Everything Can Be Fixed

While you’re in a state of denial, you will be tempted to communicate with your ex. There will be a time and place to do that, but talking could only slow down the healing process. You should not communicate with your ex while you’re in a confused state of mind. Give it some time and maybe you will realize you don’t need a closure after all.

Distract Yourself

While it’s the perfect time to listen to heartbreak songs, doing so would be unproductive. Allow yourself some time to grieve, but don’t spend too long thinking about the breakup. Spend time with your family and friends. Try new things or work off your frustration by going to the gym. Choose activities, however, that will not compromise your health. You’re mentally vulnerable at this point so it’s easy to fall into addiction and abuse.

Learn to Love Again

In time, the pain will fade. You should not be afraid to try again. If your last relationship failed, that doesn’t mean you will keep failing. Consider dating but only if you feel that you’re ready. You can’t start going out with another person when you’re still heartbroken. It would be unfair to him/her and yourself.

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