Time-Tested Techniques to Keep Relationship Problems at Bay

One of the most important things about being in a relationship is learning how to keep the relationship going even after the honeymoon phase is over, and all the small imperfections start to surface.

As the relationship goes on, you will run into disagreements, which will eventually lead into arguments and fights that could strain the relationship, or even hurt each other whether you intend to or not.

To prevent relationship problems before they get out of hand, here are a few techniques you can use with your partner:

1. Engage, don’t enrage
Most arguments between couples happen because of small things or annoying habits that a partner keeps repeating, rather than a disagreement over a big decision.

A healthy couple will try to dig deep in any emotional argument to find out what really is the reason why they’re fighting with each other, and to hear – and carefully listen – to what the other is trying to say.

To resolve issues with your partner, it’s important to keep a calm head since making criticizing comments or intentionally pushing buttons won’t fix anything, but instead make things worse.

2. Take the initiative, but don’t dominate
Taking the initiative and dominating the relationship are two different things – and the important factor that distinguishes one from the other is choice.

Rather than outright telling your partner to stop doing something or start doing something a certain way, try to encourage a conversation about it and open yourself and your partner up to possible compromise and alternatives.

Even though you are in a relationship, boundaries are still important, and you need to respect your partner’s if you want your partner to respect yours.

3. Avoid shaming your partner
Avoid using words or doing things that could shame or make your partner feel humiliated. Take a moment to think about what you want to say, and be sure to use words to focus on the action instead of the person.

In this same way, you also want to avoid taking your partner for granted – gratitude can be more life changing for you and your partner when you acknowledge and are thankful for the different things you bring to the relationship.

4. Practice being vulnerable to your partner
Being emotionally naked to your partner can be more terrifying than being physically naked, especially if it’s your first time. However, while being vulnerable can get you hurt, this is only the way that genuine connections and intimacy can develop with your partner.

Aside from openly communicating, expressing, and sharing your feelings with your partner, it’s also important to know your partner’s “love language”, which is how your partner gives and receives love and affection.

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